Strangely today two different friends sent me almost the same statement
The first was this statement:
My life feels so much like prison that many days it doesn't feel that I will survive.
A hour later another friend sent me a request for help breaking out from their situation:
I feel like I need to hand in my resignation to my current job. Seeing that this sounds and seems crazy because I do not have anything lined up…that my spirit is being contained…
I will answer my friends more personally, but I would like to write about this to help people learn what it means to live in potential: by exploring what it means first to live by limitation.
What is a prison?- A prison is a place of limitation.
People and society create prisons to limit the potential of people placed in the prison.
Flip this statement around
- To limit oneself is to imprison oneself!
In this sense, whenever, we limit ourselves, it will feel like prison. We imprison ourselves in order to meet expectations and obligations. How often do you tell yourself: Oh today I can't do this because of… Or I have to work this job because I need to pay for my children's needs.
It might all be for extremely valid reasons! But it still hurts the spirit to box it within limitation.
What further re-enforces this problem, our society has "limited" methods of exchange down to a very few systems, primarily money, to provide connection...
(the results and whys are for a separate post) which further dampens the ability of people to release spiritual potential.
Limitation is a very human quality: animal's don't limit themselves, neither do children at first.
This is why Taoism teaches how to live life in potential not within limitation of form.
Another issue to consider is, we are alive and human. That means we all have edges and issues to work against. Every life has an edge to work against. But our edges can easily be defined as limitations. Once you make your own personal issues and problems into a limitation you imprison yourself and then hinder personal growth and healing.
- You see this true story told over and over again, how a person is defined by a disability, which at first limits them and then later they discover: the limitation is a lie and then they exceed and go beyond everyone's dream of potential.
So in the end the truth is this:
Easier said than done, otherwise we wouldn't have countless self help books and religions that exist to remind us of our great potential!
The simple answer is this:
- Have faith and trust to your heart
While I lead a very free life, I still "work" at jobs, to earn money to support children. Those jobs and how I earn money at many times seemingly have limited me. I know at times I also have felt like being trapped in prison.
And then I smile, and release the walls, I go out and in kindness help my co-workers, I take time to exercise, to breath , to write poetry to release back into my potential.
For myself its a give and take process. I dive in to work and achieved what is required and then I shift back to heart and climb back out.
Ideally we would all work at the jobs which embolden our hearts, but the realities are, that isn't always an option. And as I will show later, at times harder paths leads to greater potential.
It's always possible to find a path around limitation. It isn't always easy; it isn't always a short path.
The first important distinction is this.When limitation is imposed rather than accepted, it will feel like a prison.
So the first tactic is acceptance.This becomes a dance: a personal dance between your heart and the reasons of limitation. This permits a person to discover the walls are merely tools. Edges for you to climb and then literally to be used to jump to different places. Ironically at times limitation can help lead to better end results as they allow a person to see and discover life with a different perspective. You shouldn't always view limitation as being bad. They can represent activated potentials to leverage and then create something better.
The second aspect to consider. Often time's limitations are externally placed by others to control you. This means it's important for you to act on your own, not to expect others to free you.
For example in a
blog post today from Bill Cara's Site.
Bill was asking why the government wasn't thinking outside the box to fix the current financial problems the United States is facing. The reasons are very simple, the government is using the box to control everything. You won't see the powers controlling government thinking outside the box because they made the box to hold us in the first place.
To think outside of the box is to think outside of falsely defined limits placed on us. As a result don't expect someone from the outside to release you. Take the time to discover your own personal path out of any box you have found yourself trapped inside of. This is why the first quote of my book reads:
Science is fact
Religion is faith
Magic is perception
Know these boundaries to discover what lies beyond.
We each use a mixture of fact, faith and perception to find our way around limitations placed in our life.
Now this is just a start of a process to find freedom. The true secret is:
this is a path of heart. Heart represent connection to the larger world, and in connecting to the larger world it becomes
possible to remove the limitations we have had.
Another methodIf you feel life has been limited, then begin something new. Always experiment and try practices like Yoga, Qi Gong, Martial arts etc to enliven the spirit. It may sound too simple, but many times something simple like this is enough to open up new possibilities to explore from.
One last thingLimitation is the removal of potential: to take away what it possible.
Don't forget to smile , to laugh. To smile is always to open up possibility and potential. I have said it before in this blog and will say it again, the smile is one of the most important practices any person can learn and embrace in their life.
Look at any comedian and you will find a person who uses humor to turn their life around.
Namaste
The second Taoist lesson I teach is often summarized as this:
My friend Angela and I were chatting about this
Angela
"Embrace truth lightly" is the most profound set of words I've read in a long time. Thanks
Taoism gives us room to grow and be who we are and yet also governs a harmonious and loving way of being - is it ironic, or just the way truth is?? ;)