Happily & Unhappily in Love
Finding a partner to share life with is a challenge.
Until taking the time to be with yourself and be happy with yourself.. focusing in on the inability to find another person to be happy with... is just an excuse to not to work on yourself...
This topic is a broken record.
The basic truth here is this:
- Many people are happy at being unhappy.
- Either be happy with who you are...
and then you find partners that match your nature. - Or be happy at being unhappy and always be in a shitty relationship.
Many people think they are working towards #1 but instead just focus at living in #2.
As Yoda said ”There is no try, just do” Pick 1 or 2 and work at being in the zone you want to hold... Of course people at #2 never will admit they are happy ... since they are unhappy.. It's the perfect catch-22.
Plenty of people dwell and make their business in this zone of unhappiness. I don't spend any of my time propping up unhappiness. Oh it's possible to spend lots of money going to counselors and psychologists propping up such bad behavior. But its a waste of relationship (time) to do so...
No one can save a person not ready to be save... and likewise no cure exists for those stuck at being unhappy for their happiness... Which is why Taoism is so effective helping people since Taoism teaches how to release such behavior...
But only if a person is ready to release...
Namaste
4 comments:
Is a relationship necessary?
A personal choice for everyone.
However, humans are social animals and tend to seek relationship as part of our nature.
For some reason I was thinking about this the other day.
I think the only thing that's truly painful is having a real connection with somebody and then blowing it somehow. Just being alone because that's the way things happen to be at the moment is no big deal at all. Is it "better" to be with someone constantly? Is it "more natural"? *shrug* Who knows man, not me.
But I'd posit that people who feel they are "in pain" from not having a romantic relationship with anyone probably feel that way because Hollywood and pop music push that value on them constantly in everyday life. Absent that, they probably wouldn't care all that much and would focus more on enjoying things as they are.
many many stories in it all Ryan :) in the end it is what we make it to be...
might as well make it fun no matter how it happens...
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