The Children
In helping couples navigate broken relationships. A statement I hear often is:
I feel sad when I think about the kids.
If you are going through this: Then consider:
This is a time to teach your children how to handle the situation for their own future life.
To hold onto a broken relationship, is to teach the children how to have and hold onto broken relationships.
If you live wisely, making sure you resolve your problems with kindness (by leaving or by resolution), it teaches the children how to be true to the heart.
(Staying in a broken relationship is never true to heart)
The truth:
More than ever this is a time to be personally strong, to live more truly to the heart and inner truth of being. To stand up and live life without regrets.
The children are learning important lessons of how to embrace and work to life in a growing manner.
- Be kind so they learn kindness
- Be strong and support your nature so they know how to stay true to themselves if they get caught in a bad relationship
- Be wise in discovering an understanding that you are indeed a teacher for your family!
So teach lessons not to lose yourself but to live truly to your life.
Is there a perfect way to protect the children no! But the best answer is to always show by example how to fully be. So why not make this an opportunity to teach...
- How to Live and to hold oneself to heart and personal truth.
Namaste
2 comments:
Where were you and your sage words when my parents married and divorced twice, for the sake of the children? : )
They certainly didn't listed to their wise 13 year old (me)! I begged them to stay divorced the first time. But no, they had to commit the same mistakes all over again!
I was old enough and wise enough that I think I came through the experience remarkably unscathed, but it's messed up my brother for the past 40 years!!
I apply Taoism to my counseling work. It works very well to help people find release.
The problem is: that this advice: to live kindly in respect to balance relations and work with the children is a harder path for many people.
Sadly our culture teaches/encourages the tools of hate and bitterness over kindness.
The call to do what is "right" imposed by outside standards very often over-weighs to do what is kind and within the heart
I have witness too many things like what you described, it's one reason I came out of my private practice to be a bit more proactive in teaching others kindness.
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