Relationship Release: Part 3

I talked about release in the previous post. But I was asked this question regarding when the partner in question is also experiencing a mid life crisis.

Do you think staying close with a person shifting in transformation helps the process, or hinders the process?

This is the line where counseling happens and I cannot give a generic answer. The balance shifts for each couple: Every relationship has a different balance and set of answers.

To know the right / or best answer for a relationship requires that first I have to feel / know the spirit of the situation. To test and understand the dynamics and tenor of the relationship and partners. Additionally, the answers always also shift as a person in mid life crisis is in a state of change/ flux. So you always have adjust answers accordingly and often during the process. As a result I work with people in an active manner so the assistance stays in sync with life's changes.

What can generally be said is this:

• Your heart is a guide, but it is your guide not theirs.
  
  
• Know that your actions have to balance out in reflection which means you have to observe and be aware. Don't judge or try to change their course... In other words you let your own actions and life be the way to shift the situation to best work for everyone.
  
  
• Don't let fear drive your actions since otherwise you make your fears real.
  
  
• Make sure you take care of yourself. Do yoga or Qi Gong or similar practices to help keep your mind and body sharp. This will help balance out the interactions better as a result.
  
  
• Know that you will make mistakes and that is fine, we work with mistakes to turn it around and make a better life
  
  
• Discover this is also a process of personal forgiveness and as a result it will lead into unexpected insights and directions when least expected.

The way to work with release and mid life transformation is to allow your life to also change to be match and reflect the needs of everyone involved. That what is best isn't based on past expectations but rather what is required in the here and now to let people grow.


Namaste