Relationship Release: Part 2

From those with relationships in trouble, I get a very common question:

Can you help my partner who is suffering a crisis?

A person asking me for help in this manner: usually does so to recover a relationship that has gotten beyond their grasp. When a partner in a relationship is experiencing a crisis, then in reflection that crisis often reflects back to affect your life in a similar manner.

• A truth of help:
  
  You can usually help a person who asks directly for help, but rarely directly help those who don't ask.

This means I help 90% of those who directly ask me for help. Not by helping the partner but by helping the person asking: to shift and find centering out of the chaos they are adrift within. I am not a marriage counselor, I am a spiritual guide helping people discover kindness and to peacefully resolve transformation. I help people transform and guide by heart.

While I have saved marriages, The point isn't saving a relationship, It's assisting the person asking for help discover personal change; teaching how to build up inner strength they never suspected could exist on their own.

• It's always up to you to take control of what happens now.
  
  If you do nothing, when living in relationship of crisis:
  
  then the reflection of crisis does define you.
  

I rarely see people lead "happy" lives when letting crisis control their destiny. But this is a choice many people take. But we also have to keep in mind that the history of many families often cause individuals to play out more complicated journeys. We have to respect each person's journey. So at times crisis is part of a person path to embrace.

• Everyone does have this option: Turning personal earthquakes into a personal transformation to make life better!

By helping the person who asks for help, grow so much, in reflection the partner in crisis often wants to come back. That in growing to become fuller: the renewed personal strength calls to the partner who left. The ironic truth is:some times by growing so much, the person I help will choose to not take the partner back, because of opening into a new life which is better. Yet in all cases, helping the person who first asked to find new strength and move to what is best for them.

The simple truth is this:

If you want to keep a partner you have to be willing to accept and let them go fully now. This requires looking into your heart, learning from the mistakes made , making corrections so life more closely follow the heart and begin living fully.

Some people don't seek help: they value relationship more than their own personal happiness: unconsciously knowing to be personally whole is to let the relationship be over. Instead trying to find wholeness within a broken relationship over a personally whole heart. This is a very hard choice to make since by definition you will not find wholeness from a broken relationship.

I counsel the person asking for help since by asking for help, they have stepped up to be ready to work upon their side of change. In this manner I know for sure I can help them find their heart. This is the seed to start making a larger difference and then in time improve, repair or find fuller relationships.

Things don't magically become easy. Yet I know from experience those who accept their heart always grow to live fuller lives. It's a most amazing path to explore and this path of kindness is my personal choice how to teach and show others how to find wholeness.

Release is the key to unfolding into true relationship.

Release is accepting and moving with heart.

To do this means releasing your own heart to also be free.

Namaste