Therapists
A friend wrote me this compliment yesterday:
but few end up liking their therapist... except for me. :)
This relates to yesterday's post. When I work and guide people. I never work towards making a person whole to some outside definition. My work is to hold space and guide a person to following their own heart. This is a vastly different compared to how many therapists work to "expectation" or predefined measures of health.
Often times when a person sees a counselor, they are working to stay as they were and not working to change or to become what they are. In other words: trying to make a bad situation better by forcing oneself back into a box that doesn't fit life. So bad things can stay the same... Oh yes on the surface many people say they want change: yet they work hardest to stay the same. That isn't helping a person to stay whole in my book.
It's a hard job to help others flow to their life. Discover that it's a process of patience and acceptance. (Side note: this often requires rediscovering the meaning of truth and judgment to discover release and permission to be oneself)
If you are working to find your own solutions, I always stress firstly to each person that is this a process for you to discover patience and acceptance of your own heart first and foremost.
The Tao Te Ching is a great source of help here also. I won't quote it here, as it's best to make the reading one's own over than discovering meaning through someone else's heart and perception filters.
Namaste.
2 comments:
Most people don't like their therapists? I've been seeing one and I totally like him. It almost seems after opening yourself up to someone so much you can almost become dependent on them, it's not usual to open up to someone so much unless you like them. Mine is pretty groovy, and a Taoist as well so totally *gets* me and where I'm trying to go.
I really think it depends on the field, IN this case it was referring to marriage therapists... one of the hardest fields I think to be good in, and one area I see therapists trying to force people into molds becuase the person is often desperate to stay as they were rather than change.
I almost didn't make this post since it could be easily taken the wrong way.
I personally think Marriage Therapists have one of the hardest jobs on the planet. More power to them, but I also feel the statement illustrates the delicacy of working with the heart.
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