Signs of a Midlife crisis
A common question when facing the possibility of a midlife crisis is: What are the signs? As a culture we just love to define symptoms and then react in a cookbook fashion to cure the problem.
Here are ten common signs:
- Looking into the mirror and you no longer recognize yourself.
- You desire and crave physical -Free Flowing- movement. For example: Running, Biking, Dance, Fast red sports cars, Sky diving, etc.
- Changing or investigating new religions or churches or new age philosophy
- Unexplained bouts of depression when doing tasks which used to make you happy.
- You see how everything is totally fucked up, and you have new ideas on how to fix it all.
- Hair changes. (Natural changes in thickness, luster, color or Assisted changes in dying hair suddenly or shaving your head bald)
- Feeling trapped...
- You keep asking yourself: "Where am I going with my life?"
- Changes of diet: different foods taste good or bad now.
- Someone unexpectedly exclaims: "You are going through a midlife crisis!"
For a cook book, well you can check out A Personal Tao.
The full list is posted on A Personal Tao web site.
Please feel welcome to add comments or stories or additional items to the list.
Peace
11 comments:
your unbearable lightness of being? Haha, sorry, I've just finished reading it so I see it everywhere ... :D
I'm not even 27, so I hope my crisis stays away for a while.
By the way, if you get the dying need to visit Belgium just for it's chocolate and not for me, then you have a midlife crisis! :D
I never read that book :)
Personally, my midlife transformation was amazing and not something I would have avoided as to have done so would have meant limiting my very life. While a mid life transformation might be difficult, its that extra edge in the process which tempers and strengthens us to do so much more and truly embrace our nature. Isn't life itself a challenge if one is living to begin with?
It's not something to wish away, unless you desire never to change. And isn't the definition of living fulfilled through the overall process of being fire and change that we each are?
Hi Casey sorry it took me a while to get over here.
I have seem some friends get lost because they see their mortality I think and trying to act younger gives them the sense of turning the clock back which it doesn't.
I don;t think I will be bothered with it because i am content with who I am as I suspect as you are yourself from what I have read.
Thank you for stopping by and your comment :)
Thanks Walker :)
contentment -> acceptance and flowing with ones life is in the end the ultimate answer to any part of our life.
Peace in your travels.
Arf, you really have to read it. I'm not into all this top of the hill-literature, because it's a very narrowminded world, but this book is worth time & effort. I've written about it on hbt, maybe that will inspire you :)
How would I know when a man is coming out of the midlife crisis? Will he see man/woman relationship differently too?
Hi Hunter Rose :)
how to tell when a person is coming out of a midlife crisis can be tricky since it can occur in stages.
But surety of self (and not false pretenses) would be one measure. the other would be stability in actions.
On the question:
Will he see man/woman relationship differently too?
most likely, but differently isn't always a positive change either.
i just found your blog! very interesting - you name what i am going through right now and i'm only 31!!!
I have been thinking do I really have a midlife crisis -even a friend told me i have it 10 years too early.
I have been in a wonderful relationship (marriage) for 12 years, and all of the sudden it's not enough anymore - or should I say "it's too much"???
I hope what I wrote has been helpful Stephanie.
and I do understand the "too much feeling"
be sure to also allow you spirit to run free :)
I was sitting here reading the symptoms, thinking "yes..yes..yes..etc." to the end. It's like this was written to me. I have been happily married for 21 years, and it's like I'm not happy anymore. Stuff he does or says drives me crazy, like..Uh, please shut up, you are so getting on my nerves. I lost my job of 19 years back in March, and was out of work for 3 months. Went through depression. Got a new job, loved it at first, been there 5 months and HATE it. I hate my life, my job, food, my hair, my body, wanting to change, hate my husband (well, not always), but you get the idea. Are there online support groups for people like us? I turned 42 in August. When I told a friend the feelings I've been having, it was she that said "you are going through midlife crisis my dear".
I was sitting here reading the symptoms, thinking "yes..yes..yes..etc." to the end. It's like this was written to me. I have been happily married for 21 years, and it's like I'm not happy anymore. Stuff he does or says drives me crazy, like..Uh, please shut up, you are so getting on my nerves. I lost my job of 19 years back in March, and was out of work for 3 months. Went through depression. Got a new job, loved it at first, been there 5 months and HATE it. I hate my life, my job, food, my hair, my body, wanting to change, hate my husband (well, not always), but you get the idea. Are there online support groups for people like us? I turned 42 in August. When I told a friend the feelings I've been having, it was she that said "you are going through midlife crisis my dear".
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